There is no answer to “what you really are”. Because there is no answer to “what you really are”.
There is only what you understand. What you create. And its what you create that answers what you are. Because that’s what you understand.
Nobody talks what your mother is really like. She makes lovely pies. And people say your mother is lovely. Because she understands how to create lovely pies and she creates lovely pies. There is no answer to what she is really like.